Purely Love

pure love...

that's actually a pleonasm (mr whitby, i got that right! heh). i think love itself is pure. =)
and i really want to love with purity...

a month ago, my parents wish me "希望你找到好对象" during chinese new year. ok, i dun even know if i'm writing the right characters... but the gist is, they wished that i'll find my Someone, or at least find someone good for me? direct translation. it is the first time ever in my whole entire life that they wished me that. i was like... whoa.

then, my mom had this dream about some guy coming over to my house to see my parents... and THEN my bROther has this dream that i wanted to get married at 19. and my parents said ok. my brother said no. i think he freaked out in the dream. my father thinks that those are signs that i have a boyfriend... i think my family is really cute...

how untimely... just when i decided that no, i'm not getting myself into relationships, at least not for now. i think i'm not ready. i think i'm still too self-centred.

when 2 people get into a relationship, it is because he loves her for who she is. she loves him for who he is. i want to love him because of who he is, not simply because he is nice to me, therefore i shall be nice to him. a rlshp should not be just about Me. whether he has loved me enough, pleased me enough, give me enough. that's selfish love. and i don't believe in love that's selfish. or self-seeking. if i love someone, my focus should be on him. not me. tough right... that's why i feel i'm not ready.

here's e definition of love from 1 Cor 13.

"love is patient, love is kind. it does not envy, it does not boast. it is not proud. it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

love never fails."

love is patient... so there's a time where we wait.
love is kind... so we are compassionate. and we do not judge or condemn e other.
love does not envy... so we trust him. or her.
love does not boast. it is not proud... so we humble ourselves. and respect the other.
love is not rude... so we take courtesy especiallywith our family, when we already know each other so well. we don't take each other for granted.
love is not self-seeking...
love is not easily angered... patience! and self-control...
love keeps no record of wrongs... that's where forgiveness comes in... this is also tough...
love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth... that's where we help each other and support each other to hold on to the truth, to goodness, to God.
it always protects, always trusts, always hope, always perseveres....
love never fails...

heh. love is so great isnt it? it's not just about love between a couple, but love in families, friends, colleages, project mates... etc.

and... love is pure. i dont want to look at a guy and think of him as a potential boyfriend. i just want to treat him like how Jesus will treat His friend. purely with love! =)